Note: Please read this page in conjunction with NLP Coaching models (s)
Currently both pages are a mix of success systems, coaching models and principles, all of which can be really useful. – Choose what works for you based on your direction/goals and the environment that you work in.
Michael’s Short 4 Element Success System
- Set ambitious, exciting goals. Take small daily steps.
- Big goals will cause big challenges! Find core solutions and drive to completion.
- Pick oneself up quickly and easily when we fall over. Take the learning and let go of the emotion. Take emotional pain as a signal that we’ve something important to learn.
- Realise that solving problems is one of the most important life skills and that we only get better with practice, so thank the universe when we get challenging problems to solve.
(It’s woth watching Ray Dalio’s Principles For Success by Ray Dalio (In 30 Minutes) )
Michael’s 6 Element Success System
- Have a purpose. Something we want to achieve for ourselves, and something we want to achieve for the greater good, ie something that’s bigger than we are.
- Have a direction and vision. Where are we trying to get to? What will we see, hear and feel when we get there? Who do we need to involve?
- Have a plan. To me a plan has a number of key elements a) some milestones or steps between where we are now and where we want to get to b) Some focus areas, so we know what activities we need to focus on now to move forward c) Some development areas, skills and capabilities that we’ll improve, which in turn will make the journey faster and more enjoyable. d) Know how to to manage and build our resources – knowing how to use our time and energy effectively and efficiently on a daily basis. e) Prioritise. Decide our nominal key priorities for today, the next week, the next month and next year. f) Set some measurable, key performance indicators.
- Take action. It’s only the action we take that impacts the world.
- Review progress. a) Set daily priorities and review progress at the end of the day b) Review how we’re doing against our milestones and key performance indicators c) Check in with our key stakeholders and ask for feedback and feedforward. d) Celebrate any success and learn from any apparent failure. Treat both as a source of information and learning.
- Review steps 1-5, a) what do we want to start doing/do more of? b) what do we want to keep doing? c) What have we avoided, that we’re now going to commit to do? d) What are we going to stop doing?
The success model can be reviewed as you progress. Test it by seeing if you feel happy and are getting the results that you expect. If you are not – that’s ok, the success system just needs developing as you work out what works.
It can be useful to review our internal and external resources as part of this process a) our emotional states b) our beliefs, c) our values d) our strategies and capabilities e) our network.
Michael’s 4 Success Indicators
At least a touch of: 1) Ambition 2) Courage 3) Discipline and 4) Openness / Honesty / Vulnerability
Michael’s 3 Change Indicators
At least a touch of: 1) Playfulness/Humour 2) Fierceness/Determination 3) Tenderness/Humanity
Reflections on What Leads to Happiness and Fulfilment
Useful when setting our life direction / end goals: 1) Financial Freedom 2) Health 3) Great Relationships 4) Meaning and Purpose
Key Resources That We Need To Be Responsible For
How we use our 1) Time 2) Energy and 3) Attention
GROW. Clarifying each element helps us move forward (Not always as easy as it sounds).
1) Goals 2) Current Reality 3) Options and Choice 4) Way Forward
Grief Cycle (Elisabeth Kübler-Ross)
1 ) Denial 2) Anger 3) Bargaining 4) Depression 5) Acceptance with maybe 6) Meaning.
This is can be a useful metaphor to explain the reason some clients initially find it hard to accept their current situation.
Creating a routine and habits that give us: 1) Great relationships 2) Control 3) Predictability 4) Positive Expectancy (Optimism) 5) Meaning and Purpose 6) The Ability To Dissipate Stress
1) Practice rigorous authenticity 2) Surrender the outcome 3) Do the uncomfortable work
Keys to Health
While we all have different views of health, being healthy, in at least some aspect of our lives, is attractive. Aspects that keep us healthy include: 1) Purpose and meaning 2) A sense of control 3) Great connections and relationships 4) Exercise 5) Great eating, drinking enough water 6) Releasing excess stress 7) Good breathing habits 8) Stretching 9) Sleep 10) Great daily habits and routines,
Ray Dalio’s Life Principles
- Understand and embrace reality. Both the good and the bad.
- Discovering the right answer(s) is more important than being right
- Meaningful work and meaningful relationships are the greatest assets and the greatest rewards
- Don’t let your ego and your blind spots get in your way
- Pain + Reflection = Growth
- Be open minded and assertive at the same time
- You can have virtually anything you want, but not everything you want. Prioritise well!
- Find the most believable people you disagree with, and try to undetand their reasoning
- There is always a good path, if you don’t see it, keep looking, in the rght way, with the help of others,
- Own your own direction/outcomes
Ray Dalio’s Work Principles
Get the culture right
- Radical truth and transparency
- Meaningful work + meaningful relationships
- Learning from mistakes
- Alignement/being in sync
- Believability weighted decisions
- Agreed resolution process
Get the people right
- WHO comes before WHAT
- Hiring right
- Continually train, test, evaluate and sort people
Build and evolve your machine
- Manage/design the machine
- Don’t ignore problems
- Diagnose root causes
- Improve your design
- Execute your plans
- Build and improve tools and protocols
- Build governance
12 RULES FOR LIFE – Peterson, Jordan B.. 12 Rules for Life (p. iii). Penguin Books Ltd. Kindle Edition
- Stand up straight with your shoulders back
- Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping
- Make friends with people who want the best for you
- Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today
- Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
- Set your house in perfect order before you criticie the world
- Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient),
- Tell the truth – or at least don’t lie
- Assume the person you are listening to, might know something that you don’t
- Be precise in your speech
- Do not bother children when they are skate-boarding
- Pet a cat when you counter one on the street,
Attracting Romance. From Models by Mark Manson.
- Create an attractive and enriching life style
- Overcome (embrace?) fears and anxiety around socialising, intimicy and sexuality
- Master the expression of your emotions, values and desires and communicate them fluidly and effectively.
Watch this short video from Michael Beale in which he explains his own 8 element success system. It’s best to develop a system that is personal to you – what elements do you need to feel more successful and fulfilled?
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NLP Coaching Section Index
1: NLP Coaching Introduction
2: Success system and model
3: NLP coaching model
4: Beginning frame
5: States and anchors
6: End goals and direction
8: Where are you
9: Getting to there
10: Mental rehearsal
11: End frame
13: CEO and executive coaching follow up