Seduction used to be considered an art form reserved for the few. This has changed – anyone can learn how to attract a partner. We’ve selected the best for 2023 in this list of seduction books to read.
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Below, under the section on our favourite seduction programmes, are some of our favourite books on the skill of making someone fall for you. But there’s more to studying seduction than that. As well as being fascinating on its own, it is also an amplifier of our leadership, sales and influence skills.
This is our selection of the best books and training about seduction in 2022. Each of these seduction approaches is very different, and yet, in its own way, they offer a delightfully complementary approach.
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Top 13 NLP Seduction Books
Models: Attract Women Through Honesty
Models: Attract Women Through Honesty
This book is our current favourite and centres on:
- Creating an enriching lifestyle.
- Overcoming fears and anxieties about socialising, intimacy and sexuality.
- Mastering the expression of your emotions, values, desires and fantasies and communicating them fluidly.
It works well with the ‘Master Seducers Handbook’, which takes us through the steps of a seduction.
From Amazon: Models is the first men’s dating book ever written on seduction as a purely emotional process rather than a logical one, a process of connecting with women rather than impressing them, a process of self-expression rather than manipulation.
It’s the most mature and honest guide on how a man can attract women without faking behaviour, without lying and without emulating others. A game-changer.
The Secrets of Female Sexuality
The Secrets of Female Sexuality by David Shade,
I really like this book. An extract – What are the 4 things women really love:
First, a woman needs to feel appreciated for the unique individual that she is. She needs to feel special, unlike any other woman, and she needs to know that her man supports her in her endeavours.
Second, she needs to feel that deep, intimate emotional connection. She needs to have that emotional intimacy with her man. It’s a connection she shares only with him.
Third, she needs to feel like a woman. She needs to feel beautiful, sexy, and feminine. She needs to enjoy all those things that come with being a woman.
Finally, she needs hot, passionate sex. She needs to be seduced, enticed, teased, and satisfied, over and over again. She needs to experience new things, in new ways, including fantasies and roles.
Note: This book is more about the mind than the body, its about sparking the mind, appealing to her mental sexuality, and the body will follow, rather than more direct physical stuff.
From Amazon: Women can only get all the things they want when men know these truths, but women cannot speak them because that would violate all the rules. Society covers up these truths to maintain order, but it leaves women unfulfilled and men confused. Men are further frustrated by the seemingly contradictory logic of women.
She wants a ‘nice guy”, yet she is addicted to a self-absorbed jerk. Has a woman ever cried on your shoulder because the bad boy that she is so in love with is inconsiderate while you are a respectful ‘good guy’? What is this power that bad boys have? They operate outside of social norms and thus know the secrets. After many years in development, the book that needed to be written reveals the truths hidden behind social programming and perfectly clarifies the female mind.
Dating (The School of Life Love Series)
Dating (The School of Life Love Series)
This short book (62 pages) has delightfully low-key and straightforward approaches to chatting up – lots of good questions, attraction, subjects to talk about and the first kiss.
From Amazon – This little book teaches us about the history of dating, the best way to discuss our past on our date, what questions to ask a new partner, and how to learn from a wrong date. Both heartfelt and wise, it provides us with an indispensable road map to the varied, sometimes delightful, sometimes daunting realities of dating.
Dating might seem like a trivial and relatively inconsequential part of love, but it is, in fact, the key to finding a lasting relationship. Dating allows us to explore some of the most prominent themes of romantic love; how to know if someone is suitable for us; how soon to settle and how long to search; how to be at once honest and seductive; how to say “no” if a situation doesn’t feel right. This little book’s tone and practical advice never minimize the agony, joys, and confusions of our dating days and nights but offers solace to the weary: there is a partner out there for all who seek.
MODE ONE: Let The Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking
MODE ONE: Let The Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking by Alan Roger Currie
Another book that left a profound impression on me. I sometimes joke with my clients when they have a tricky communication challenge and say, “Have you considered telling the truth?” And I get a striking look of horror back. This book builds on the idea and cuts through years of social programming that many of us have had. The advantage is often 1) we get much better results 2) It saves our time and 3) It makes us much harder to manipulate.
I found it hard to read (I didn’t want to hear its message), but I’m pleased I did.
From Amazon –
MODE ONE explains how you will almost immediately be able to distinguish the difference between genuine, non-manipulative women, and the more phony, manipulative, duplicitous type women.
Rejection by women is not your #1 enemy.
Subjective criticisms and/or opinionated insults are not your #1 enemy.
Wasting TIME and MONEY pursuing women who are not genuinely interested in you is your true #1 enemy.
What are you waiting for?? The paperback version and E-Book version of my book, Mode One: Let The Women Know What You’re REALLY Thinking can be purchased RIGHT NOW. (And if you’re a woman reading this … many of those who have already read the E-Book version have been women! Women can exhibit Mode One Behavior to their benefit as well.)
The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love
The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in Love
This book suggests that we need attraction, friendship and partnership for a successful long-term relationship. Each relates to a different area of our brains – if any of these areas are missing, we’re unlikely to stay together, and all areas may require working on.
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From Amazon: Introduces a nine-step program designed to help readers find love, examining the three stages of a successful romantic relationship–attraction, bonding in friendship, and commitment–and explaining how to use them to build enduring love.
The Master Seducer’s Handbook: Secrets of the Art of Smooth Seduction
The Master Seducer’s Handbook: Secrets of the Art of Smooth Seduction
This a great book on many levels and takes the reader through the various stages of seduction. It is also an excellent book for demonstrating seduction as an application of NLP and hypnosis.
![The Master Seducer's Handbook: Secrets of the Art of Smooth Seduction by [John Cliff]](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/510+m1CwGkL.jpg)
From Amazon: Forget about nerves and corny pick-up lines; this book will teach you how to win all the women you want by being the sort of man women love to be seduced by – charming and articulate, able to use your voice and body language to attract girls to you, expert at leading a girl into intimacy.
The Rational Male
Essential reading for men, do you want a blue pill? (Read what will make you feel really good, but it’s unlikely to move you forward) Or a red pill? (Potentially very uncomfortable, but if you activate it, it will help you be significantly more successful. This is the ultimate ‘no-nonsense’ book to stop guys from being unintentionally used. Read it as an insurance policy – feel free to reject it, but only leave it based on actual experience – not what others or society tells you.
From Amazon: “The Bible of the Red Pill”, The Rational Male® is a rational and pragmatic approach to intersexual dynamics and the social and psychological underpinnings of intergender relations. The book is the compiled, ten-year core writing of author/blogger Rollo Tomassi from therationalmale.com.
Rollo Tomassi is one of the leading voices in the globally growing, male-focused online consortium known as the “Manosphere”.
Outlined are the concepts of positive masculinity, the feminine imperative, plate theory, operative social conventions and the core psychological theory behind Game awareness and the “red pill” ideology. Tomassi explains and outlines the principles of intergender social dynamics and the foundational reasoning behind them.
Sex: An open approach to our unspoken desires (The School of Life Library)
Sex: A relaxed approach to our unspoken desires
This book is relatively short (120 pages); the easy-to-read book helps us connect with our desires and honestly express them in an easy yet undefensive way to our partners, significantly deepening our relationship.
From Amazon – An empowering approach to our unspoken desires.
Despite its relative cultural normalization, many couples still find it challenging to communicate about sex. It can feel incredibly vulnerable to express sexual desires and identities. With their trademark wisdom and practicality, The School of Life explains that rationality and philosophy can help us understand and articulate our sexual preferences.
By exploring a wide range of sexual enthusiasms, this book helps us compassionately acknowledge aspects of ourselves we may be repressing. The goal of the book is to reduce shame, increase confidence, and prompt moments of courageous and relationship-enhancing honesty.
The Everything Orgasm Book
by Amy Cooper (Author)
Most of the books here are about mental seduction; this is an excellent book that includes both the mental and physical aspects of orgasm.
From Amazon –
From Amazon “
Giving incredible orgasms, receiving really great orgasms, and everything in between: You will find all the pleasure tips you need in this guide. Clinical sexologist Amy Cooper shows you how to:
- Achieve multiple orgasms
- Self-pleasure with more satisfaction
- Harmonize with your lover
- Find erogenous zones
- Sustain longer-lasting orgasms
- Talk dirty, give lap dances, and perform stripteases
- Use sex toys, props, aphrodisiacs, and erotica
With something for everyone, this book is the definitive guide to extreme pleasure between the sheets. This book will have you experiencing the “Big O” as you never have before.”
I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide
I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide
An excellent book for understanding orgasm and how to help women achieve a great orgasm (it also highlights the critical responsibility a woman has in owning her own orgasms.)
From Amazon: Whether you’re celebrating your thousandth female orgasm, searching for your first, or cheering on your girlfriend or wife, women and men across the country agree: I Love Female Orgasm! I Love Female Orgasm is crammed with everything you want to know about the big O.
The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships
The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships
This book is an eye-opener that sex on its own can be addictive and lead to all sorts of challenges. A courageous book for Neil Strauss to write. Not for the faint-hearted!
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From Amazon: Neil Strauss made a name for himself advocating freedom, sex and opportunity as the author of The Game. Then he met the woman who forced him to question everything.
Neil’s search for answers took him from Viagra-laden free-love orgies to sex addiction clinics, from cutting-edge science labs to modern-day harems, and, most terrifying of all, to his own mother. What he discovered changed everything he knew about love, sex, relationships and, ultimately, himself. The Truth may have the same effect on you.
Atomic Attraction: The Psychology of Attraction
Atomic Attraction: The Psychology of Attraction
This is a great book summarising the latest scientific research on seduction. The book focuses on:
- Becoming attractive.
- Creating attraction.
- Building attraction.
- Maintaining attraction.
Like all the seduction books here, what it suggests is often counterintuitive and a bit of a wake-up call.
From Amazon: If you want to be a man that 80% of women desire, this book is your key. Based on over 120 scientific studies, this book is the ultimate guide to creating and maintaining attraction with women.
Attraction doesn’t grow in a warm, safe environment, it grows in a swamp of discomfort and anxiety. This is just one of many truths you’re about to discover. In Atomic Attraction, Christopher Canwell takes us on a journey through the dark waters of attraction. What turns women on? What makes them choose one man over another? And how can you become truly desirable and attractive?
This book answers these questions by combining the latest scientific research with real-life case studies to show the reader how to ignite the fires of attraction and captivate those around you.
My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies
by Nancy Friday
My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies
A great book to find out what women fantasise about!
From Amazon: The #1 New York Times–bestselling author’s “groundbreaking” work on women’s sexual fantasies (Publishers Weekly).
First published in 1973, My Secret Garden ignited a firestorm of nationwide reactions—from outrage to enthusiastic support. Collected from detailed personal interviews with hundreds of women from diverse backgrounds, this book presents a bracingly honest account of women’s inner sexual fantasy lives. In its time, this book shattered taboos and opened up a conversation about the landscape of feminine desire in a way that was unprecedented.
Today, My Secret Garden remains one of the most iconic feminist literature of our time—and is still relevant to millions of women worldwide.
The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving and the Joy of Being Loved
The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving and the Joy of Being Loved
Great book to help us increase intimacy. From superficial (albeit sometimes useful) cliches to sharing what we really need.
From Amazon: We all yearn for intimacy, but we avoid it. We want it badly, but we often run from it. At some deep level, we sense that we have a profound need for intimacy, but we are afraid to go there. Why?
We avoid intimacy because having intimacy means exposing our secrets. Being intimate means sharing the secrets of our hearts, minds, and souls with another fragile and imperfect human being. Intimacy requires that we allow another person to discover what moves us, what inspires us, what drives us, what eats at us, what we are running toward, what we are running from, what self-destructive enemies lie within us, and what wild and wonderful dreams we hold in our hearts.
In The Seven Levels of Intimacy, Matthew Kelly teaches us practical and unforgettable ways how to know these things about ourselves and share ourselves more deeply with the people we love. This book will change the way you approach your relationships forever!
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