In this video, Michael takes you through an NLP six-step reframing exercise.
Six Step Reframing can be used for any habit or behaviour change. I find it a gentle technique that will either provide a solution or give us enough information to know what to do next. I’ve extended the technique from the original six steps, as I find this more effective, but it’s still the same technique.
The six step reframing process.
Get in touch with the part that’s causing the behaviour.
- Ask your client what habit or behaviour they want to change.
- Ask them to go inside themselves and ask: “Will the part that causes this behaviour communicate with me in consciousness?”
- Tell your client to be aware of any internal changes in their body sensations, sounds, or mental images. Are they confident this change represents a yes?
- When your client is confident they’ve received a yes response, they should respectfully thank that part for communicating in consciousness.
Understand what that part is trying to achieve.
- Now ask your client to ask that first part to explain what it wants to achieve by exhibiting the habit or behaviour. What is the part’s positive intention? Ask your client to listen carefully, and when they have an answer that satisfies them, to let you know what it is.
- When your client lets you know the positive intention, repeat it back to them, so they can confirm that you’ve heard it correctly. Remind your client to thank that part for having that positive intention and for sharing it.
Ask for alternative ways to achieve the same – or better – outcome.
- Your clients now needs to go to their creative part, the part that has helped them find solutions to opportunities and challenges, and ask it to communicate in consciousness. Again, ask your client to notice any signals that they’re happy to accept as a yes.
- Once your client has received an affirmation from their creative part, ask them to say thank you and follow up by asking for at least three alternative habits or behaviours that will satisfy the positive intention and also be better overall. Your client will need to sit quietly and just listen to the replies. When there are at least three suggestions, ask them to thank their creative part and select one of the suggestions.
Gently find a different approach that the client is willing to try.
- Now ask your client to return to the original part, that caused the habit or behaviour, and ask if it would be happy to try out the new behaviour for a short while – initially for no more than a week. If the part says yes, ask your client to future pace the new habit or behaviour. If the part says no, ask the client to to go back to their creative part for more suggestions, and then try again.
- Once your client has settled on a new behaviour to try out, ask him or her to thank the parts involved and to remember that the parts are simply a useful metaphor, and they’ll work best as a fully integrated individual.
- Ask your client what they can do to encourage the new habit or behaviour.
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Full NLP Techniques List
Key NLP Techniques Section Index
1: NLP Techniques
3: Amplify feelings
4: Bad memories (Dissolving)
5: Bad memories (Exploding)
6: Beliefs and belief change
7: Perceptual positions
8: Fast phobia cure
9: Hypnosis and meditation
11: Metaprogrammes, Profiles and Preferences
13. Progressive dissociation
14: Self Compassion
15: Senses and Sub-modalities
16. Six step reframing (This video)
20: Time and timeline
21. Visual Squash
22: Values and value rules